Proverbs 2:19 “none who go to her come back, nor do they regain the paths of life”
There is such a sense of loss, of finality about this scripture, and we would struggle to reconcile this with what we know about our Lord. There is of course a way back for us, and Jesus is the way.
Loss is such a painful experience.
I remember one day when my wife was meeting our youngest daughter at the local shops from school. Our daughter Rachel did not show up at the agreed time, and my wife called me to tell me this and that therefore they would be running late. However, Rachel was not on the next bus from school either, and Wendy called again, more concerned now. I decided to drive down to the school to see if there was an issue there (it was 15 mins from where we lived). We had originally provided Rachel with a mobile phone, but at the school, she attended she had to hand it in at the school office each day, and then when at the end of the school day she lined up to collect the phone, she would miss her bus. So we had eventually decided there was no value in her having the phone if it meant she would be late home every day.
I drove quickly towards the school, feeling a bit anxious. Rachel was not at the school bus stop, the school was closed up and everyone was gone. I phoned Wendy, but Rachel was not there either. By now she was around 40 mins late and we had no idea where she could be. I quickly drove home to see if she had gone there by mistake while Wendy waited for the next and final bus that Rachel could possibly be on. When I got home there was no sign of Rachel, and by now I was struggling not to panic. I called Wendy – no Rachel there either. Wendy was not willing to leave the meeting place in case Rachel still showed up – I can’t imagine how hard that was and how many faces she scanned in that hour.
I called the police and made the report, I was praying, and struggling a little to hold it together, I knew that panicking would not help, but was fighting a feeling of panic and dread rising up in my emotions like a slow filling water tank.
The police came within around ten minutes and I immediately started to explain the situation. They asked if Rachel had done this before or if she had a friends house that she might go to. Rachel was 10 years old at this time.
The phone in my hand vibrated, it was Wendy and I answered to tell her the police were here now. She said “Rachel is here” – wow, relief flooded through me, it was a physical feeling. I told the police, they were glad and quickly departed.
Rachel had got on the wrong bus and had ended up miles away from where she should have been, but the bus driver realised there was a problem and brought her back to where her mum was waiting for her (as he was going off-service at that time). The feeling of impending loss was real, the severity, the weight, the impact and the cost were all knocking on the door of our hearts and minds that day. In the end, it worked out all good.
I think that the writer here is trying to impart the risks we run, when we run after the wrong things in life, how terrible the loss is then, and how real and lasting.
KNOWLEDGE
There are a lot of words beginning with “r” that can be associated with this scripture – even thinking about these starts to deepen the flavour of what is being communicated – reach, return, restore, retreat, repent, recover, repossess, retrieve, road……
The warning is against loss – some decisions have massive consequences, life-changing consequences, we propel ourselves towards a new normal that we will not like. Is the writer talking about marital unfaithfulness? Is it perhaps sexual relationships before marriage? Or is it more a figurative direction regarding our inner heart relationship with God and through the New Testament eyes of the covenant He has made with us – does this even apply to us now that Jesus has paid the price for all sin? Could we get into a situation where there is “no way back”?
Paul writes in the New Testament
Philippians 2:12-13 “Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only as in my presence but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.”
Paul is emphasising the type of reverence we should have for God – with the deep awareness of our own inabilities and the continuous desperate need for his help – we find ourselves not seeking our own satisfaction or comfort but living on the edge, in faith, doing the impossible.
UNDERSTANDING
Let’s pick one word from this verse to look closer at and see if that can help us gain a deeper insight into how God would love us to live?
Let’s look at “regain”? The original Hebrew word is pronounced “maseget”. It is used 45 times in the ESV Old Testament. The translators have used words such as overtook; attained; afford; prosperous; rich; last, and regain to unpack these words within the various contexts. For us here we may lean into Webster’s thoughts – “to recover what has escaped or been lost”.
WISDOM – what are you chasing after in your life today?
STRENGTHS THOUGHT: Futuristic – don’t just dream about the future you want, make a path and help others get there as well.
Allan’s Unauthorised Version [no one who even approaches her will find their way back, to repossess or retrieve the way of life they used to have].
PRAYER: Father thank you for today. Help me please to stay on the path you have provided, and to have strength and wisdom with you to avoid the detours to disaster.
Thank you Allan.
Thanks Ps Allan. I need to stop dreaming and make a plan and do it. Been procrastinating on an idea I’ve had for too long. This was a word for me. A friend sent me the same scripture Phil 2 yesterday. God bless you.
Be strong and do not stray from the path that God has set for us. He knows best. One step into temptation and before long we might find ourselves in deep water, with no way out. This message teaches me to open my eyes and appreciate all the blessings that God has given us.
As adults, we need to recognise the first signs of impending danger and take timely steps to avert disaster.
Thank you, Pastor Allan for this verse and message.
“continuous desperate need for his help”, this describes it perfectly. The older I get the more I realize my desperate need for the Fathers strength, voice and wisdom in my life. I cannot get through a day without His help. I’ve wasted too many days trying to get through in my own strength, without humbly going to Him for his direction guidance and counsel.
“strength and wisdom with you to avoid the detours to disaster.” Today’s prayer is my hearts cry. Thank you Pastor Allan
As a parent I can understand what you must have endured. Today’s message reminds me to continue down the path with Jesus by my side. It’s the only way I can make it out with a song in my heart.
Thanks again Pastor Allan – I can certainly identify with you in your experience & the panic & emotional rollercoaster that you had to fight against in trusting God.
Depending on the loss of course it is something we all deal with from time to time to a lesser or greater degree & often through our bad choices we can suffer regret & disappointment which can’t be regained. These experiences are however the hard lessons that if we learn from can make us realize more & more our desperate need to know God’s higher ways & seek His wisdom & direction for our lives on a daily basis. Thank God for sending Jesus to redeem & recover what was lost for us on a far more wondrous scale than we can ever imagine! He is SO worthy of all our praise thanksgiving & reverence!!
The Wisdom question and the Strengths thought have stood out to me today. I feel both encouraged and challenged by these thoughts and my own reflections.
Thanks Ps Allan.
Can’t imagine that feeling of thinking your child is lost. Hope I never experience it.
The Terrible and ever lasting loss when we chase after the wrong things- what a thought. Thanks Allan
Thank you Ps Allan, just as you prayed
“Father thank you for today. Help me please to stay on the path you have provided, and to have strength and wisdom with you to avoid the detours to disaster.” – that is my prayer also. Stay focussed on the God who has answers and help rescue those that are stuck or trapped.
Thank you pastor Allan
I love the strength thought for today ,
To not just dream about a great future ,but instead work towards achieving what the desires of our hearts are .
To seek God’s guidance and wisdom ,and encourage others along to follow the path to restoration and recovery
Love reading these blogs Allan, your life stories are so interesting. You can see Jesus clearly in your families life a true testimony to who he is and all he wants us to be !
When you’ve gone after the wrong things in life The consequences are massive and then the true realisation hits you that you might never get back to What is classed as normal is a sense of loss
Not just losing relationships But self esteem respect and all that goes with it
Not procrastinating and keep pushing in to what god has for us is all powerful
You can get back on an even keel with god try and make that path of chasing happiness
A smooth one
Some may not decide to come with you some may