The Seven Gottman Principles of Marriage have some surprising crossover potential for all types of relationships, including the dynamic world of business.
First off, think about enhancing your love maps—this is all about knowing the little details that make others tick. In the workplace, this translates to truly understanding your colleagues. Remembering that Jane prefers her coffee black and Joe’s allergic to shellfish might seem trivial, but these small acknowledgments can build rapport and trust. It’s like saying, “Hey, I see you!” And in business, that kind of recognition can lead to a more cohesive, engaged team.
Next, let’s talk about nurturing fondness and admiration. It’s easy to point out flaws, but celebrating each other’s strengths can create a positive environment. In the office, this means acknowledging achievements, big or small. That kudos email for a job well done or a shoutout in a meeting can do wonders. Positive reinforcement not only boosts morale but also motivates everyone to bring their A-game. Who knew a principle designed for keeping the flame alive at home could ignite such productivity at work?
Finally, turning towards each other instead of away is a game-changer. In business, this means actively engaging with your team rather than retreating into your bubble. A quick “How’s it going?” or an offer to help can turn a colleague’s challenging day around. Being approachable and supportive fosters a collaborative environment. And much like in a marriage, these small acts of kindness and connection build a foundation of trust and mutual respect, creating a business culture where everyone thrives.
So, whether you’re navigating the complexities of love or the hustle of business, the Seven Gottman Principles offer timeless wisdom for building strong, resilient relationships.
It’s also worth recognising criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling in the workplace, and knowing and practising the antidotes for these.
All seven principles are helpful for all leaders – or would-be leaders…….
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